Magpie did much better with trick-or-treating this year than she did last year. I’m sure it’s because she has been with us for longer than just a couple of days unlike last year when we were in the middle of training in Ohio with er. This summer Deeds decided that he wanted to be Hercules and then proceeded to say what everyone else would also be from the movie. Little sister was Meg, Magpie was Pegasus, mommy was a Muse and poor daddy got stuck as Hades. By the end of the summer, thanks to ebay we had all the costumes set and it was really fun. Granted no one really knew who we were but the kids didn’t mind explaining to them.
In Halloween’s past we have learned that Deeds loves the holiday but it can be incredibly overstimulating for him. His favorite thing to do was to make sure people shut the door so he could then ring the door bell and even if it was obvious no one was home we couldn’t keep him from continuing to go up and ring the door bell of each and every house. This year was a bit different. We went with some of his cousins and soon our group got separated. Deeds, Magpie and I headed off with the older cousins while daddy and Gwen hung back with the younger.
At first it was great, lots of fun and laughter as the boys ran from house to house but soon Deeds would lag behind and then start to melt-down when he realized the boys were already at the next house. Even when they stopped to wait for him he was getting pretty upset. Finally I figured out that it was because once at the door people were often letting the kids just pick out their own candy. This became quite time consuming for Deeds because he would put a lot of thought into which piece he was going to pick and heaven forbid they then told him to take another.
At one point apparently Deeds wasn’t a fan of any of the candy in the bowl and I overheard him saying “Do you have any candies? I just really don’t like any of these kinds in here.” I quickly stepped in and tried to explain to him that it’s not polite to say and you should just take a piece anyway and say thank you. We intentionally go trick-or-treating in grandma’s neighborhood where they all know Deeds and Magpie just in case situations like this arise. Thankfully they were quite nice to my little dude and he was soon racing off to the next door.
As Deeds gets older we see some amazing progress in how he is doing but then there are times where the more autistic tenancies come to the surface. Holidays have become a bit of a dance for us and while we never know exactly how something is going to go from year to year we are thankful for an amazing supportive family (including his fantastic cousins) that always rolls with the punches and helps us out.